Back when we were young all that was important was to get a
boyfriend.  That was so important that you didn't even think about
who is he?  What does he want to be? Does he have baggage?
Does he have issues like, anger or self loathing?  Just, I've got
to have a boyfriend. And he must be cute! Now we know better. 
     Well basically we know what we do not want.  Now that we have
gained a good bit of wisdom, the knight in shining armor is a bit much
to ask right?  Its just not realistic.  We need to define what we do want,
and then look for that. When I got divorced many moons ago my sole
criteria for a man was, he does not wear a suit.  I see the error in
that now.